Saturday, December 31, 2016

True value of life.


A man went to God and asked, "What's the value of life?"

God gave him one stone and said, "Find out the value of this stone, but don't sell it."

The man took the stone to an Orange Seller and asked him what it's cost would be.
The Orange Seller saw the shiny stone and said, "You can take 12 oranges and give me the stone."
The man apologized and said that the God has asked him not to sell it.

He went ahead and found a vegetable seller. "What could be the value of this stone?" he asked the vegetable seller. The seller saw the shiny stone and said, "Take one sack of potatoes and give me the stone."
The man again apologized and said he can't sell it.

Further ahead, he went into a jewellery shop and asked the value of the stone.
The jeweler saw the stone under a lens and said, "I'll give you 50 Lakhs for this stone." When the man shook his head, the jeweler said, "Alright, alright, take 2 crores, but give me the stone."
The man explained that he can't sell the stone. Further ahead, the man saw a precious stone's shop and asked the seller the value of this stone.

When the precious stone's seller saw the big ruby, he lay down a red cloth and put the ruby on it. Then he walked in circles around the ruby and bent down and touched his head in front of the ruby.
"From where did you bring this priceless ruby from?" he asked. "Even if I sell the whole world, and my life, I won't be able to purchase this priceless stone.

Stunned and confused, the man returned to the God and told him what had happened. "Now tell me what is the value of life, God?

God said, "The answers you got from the Orange Seller, the Vegetable Seller, the Jeweler & the Precious Stone's Seller explain the value of our life... You may be a precious stone, even priceless, but people may value you based on their level of information, their belief in you, their motive behind entertaining you, their ambition, and their risk taking ability. But don't fear, you will surely find someone who will discern your true value."

In the eyes of God you are very very precious. Respect yourself. You are Unique. No one can Replace you!

Friday, December 30, 2016

मृत्यु: सर्वहरश्चाहमुद्भवश्च भविष्यताम् | कीर्ति: श्रीर्वाक्च नारीणां स्मृतिर्मेधा धृति: क्षमा ||

मृत्यु: सर्वहरश्चाहमुद्भवश्च भविष्यताम् |
कीर्ति: श्रीर्वाक्च नारीणां स्मृतिर्मेधा धृति: क्षमा ||

mṛityuḥ sarva-haraśh chāham udbhavaśh cha bhaviṣhyatām
kīrtiḥ śhrīr vāk cha nārīṇāṁ smṛitir medhā dhṛitiḥ kṣhamā

mṛityuḥ—death; sarva-haraḥ—all-devouring; cha—and; aham—I; udbhavaḥ—the origin; cha—and; bhaviṣhyatām—those things that are yet to be; kīrtiḥ—fame; śhrīḥ—prospective; vāk—fine speech; cha—and; nārīṇām—amongst feminine qualities; smṛitiḥ—memory; medhā—intelligence; dhṛitiḥ—courage; kṣhamā—forgiveness

Translation
I am the all-devouring Death, and I am the origin of those things that are yet to be. Amongst feminine qualities I am fame, prosperity, fine speech, memory, intelligence, courage, and forgiveness.

Commentary
There is a phrase in English, “as sure as death.” For one who is born, death is certain. All life inevitably ends in death, and thus the phrase, “dead end.” God is not merely the force of creation; he is also the force of destruction. He devours everything in the form of death. In the cycle of life and death, those who die are born again. Shree Krishna states that he is also the generating principle of all future beings.

Certain qualities are seen as adornments in the personality of women, while other qualities are viewed as especially praiseworthy in men. Ideally, a well-rounded personality is one that possesses both kinds of qualities. Here, Shree Krishna lists fame, prosperity, perfect speech, memory, intelligence, courage, and forgiveness, as virtues that make women glorious. The first three of these qualities manifest on the outside, while the next four manifest on the inside.

Besides this, the progenitor of humankind Prajapati Daksha had twenty-four daughters. Five of these were considered the best of women—Kirti, Smriti, Medha, Dhriti, and Kshama. Shree was the daughter of Sage Bhrigu. Vak was the daughter of Brahma. In accordance with their respective names, these seven women are the presiding deities of the seven qualities mentioned in this verse. Here, Shree Krishna enlists these qualities as his vibhūtis.

Thursday, December 29, 2016

Power of a Mother

One day Thomas Edison came home and gave a paper to his mother. He told her, “My teacher gave this paper to me and told me to only give it to my mother.” His mother’s eyes were tearful as she read the letter out loud to her child, “Your son is a genius. This school is too small for him and doesn’t have enough good teachers for training him. Please teach him yourself.”

Many years after Edison’s mother had died, Edison had become one of the greatest inventors of the century. One day he was going through the old closet and he found a folded letter which was given to him by his teacher for his mother. He opened it. The message written on the letter was, “Your son is mentally ill. We can not let him attend our school anymore. He is expelled.”

Edison became emotional reading it and then he wrote in his diary, “Thomas Alva Edison was a mentally ill child whose mother turned him into the genius of the century.”

Moral: A Mother’s love and upbringing can help change the destiny of a child.

Monday, October 24, 2016

After few months of break up....!


I found a message in my inbox... That message was my her...She wrote.... How is you dear .

Are you fine....

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My first expression after reading that..... was shocking...... The girl..... whom I never want to remember..... 


Has messaged me......!

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Whole past get splashed inside my mind The time....We had spent together..... That time.... When we dream of our beautiful future....

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The time...... when she said me, Baby......we will prove this world.....that true love really exists....

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I just started crying.....by remembering that..... and suddenly I go pass by her profile......,

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There I saw...... Her status..... It was written that.. ''In a relationship" with....Name of that guy..... And saw her whole profile..... 


It was seem like....she loved that guy very much....

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But I wanted to tell her.......That how much I love her..... but, now the time had changed....

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My hand went to keyboard... fingers on the keys.....

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I wrote.....

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Umm, nice to see you happy with him.....!

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With smiling smiley...... And give her blessings...For ­ her relation... she too wanted to say something.....!

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But I know.........I should escape from her life...... As I don't want.....that our past splashes her new relation,

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I simply said...... Wow, nice to see your message.... I am fine and very happy with my new girl friend...... Although i know, 


I should not spoke that lie.....

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But today also her happiness...... ­ Is my first preference... Yes ., My Heart Still Beats For You...?

Sunday, October 16, 2016

12 THINGS THAT APPEAR IN YOUR DREAM HAVE A SECRET MEANING IN REAL LIFE: YOU MUST READ THIS!

Dreams are not controlled by the mind and some people believe dreams send messages for our real life. By analyzing your dreams, you can learn a lot about your concealed secrets and feelings. The 12 things people dream about have an explicit meaning. You can learn more about them by continuing to read this article:

BOXES

Your subconscious wants to loosen if you are dreaming boxes. An empty box means you will face a disappointment in your life, while an opened box signifies you are ready to speak about your secrets.

FALLING

There isn’t a person who hasn’t been falling in their dream. It means that you are afraid of disappointment and you may be losing grip of your life.

CATS

If you are dreaming cats, it means you are a strong person. Your subconscious sends you signals of connection in the spirituality.

ANTS

You have a strong relationship with the people you love. Moreover, dreaming ants means there are people around you who put pressure on you and want to cause problems.

HAIR

If you have dreams of hair, it means your subconscious gives you thoughts on ways to express yourself to your partner.

WATER

You like to take risks in your life, and that is what this kind of dreams says about you.

FLYING

You are considering bringing an important decision in your life.

ROADS

If you are dreaming this, it expresses your hunger for travel and the desire to achieve your aims and wishes.

MUD

You keep worrying about something that keeps you stuck in a rut. Dreaming mud means it is time for you to get going.

GREEN COLOR

Your life situation at the moment makes you happy.

NUDE IN PUBLIC

Your dreams about being nude in public say you are eager to accept things other people say about you

                      -Thank You-

Thursday, September 15, 2016

Try not to hurt your love once, because a moment of anger could be a lifelong punishment.


A Boy proposed his Girl-friend for Marriage…

Girl: Tell me..; who do you love most in this world..?

Boy: You, of course!

Girl: what am I to you?

Boy: The boy thought for a moment and looked intently in her eyes and said

“You are missing part of my heart”.

She smiled, and she accepted his proposal.

After their wedding, the couple had a sweet and happy life for a while. However, the youthful couple began to drift apart due to the busy schedule of life and the never-ending worries of daily problems, their life became difficult.

All the challenges posed by the harsh realities of life began to drift away deir dreams and love for each other. The couple began to have more quarrels and each quarrel became make their relation more worst.

One day, after the quarrel, the girl ran out of the house.

At the opposite side of the road, she shouted,

”You don’t love me…!!!”

The boy hated her childishness and out of impulse, said,

“May be, it was a mistake for us to be together..!!!”

You were never the missing part of my ____!!!”

Suddenly, she turned quiet and stood there for a long, while She regretted what he said but words spoken cant be taken back. With tears in her eyes, she went home to pack her things and Before leaving the house, she left a note for him..;

“If I’m really not the missing part of your love, let me go and search for some one who is..…

It is less painful this way… let us go on our separate ways and search for our own partners…!!”

Five years went by….

He never remarried but he had tried to find out about her life indirectly. She had left the country and was living her dreams.

He use to regret on what he did but never tried to bring her back. In the dark and lonely night, he lit his cigarette and felt the lingering ache in his heart. He couldn’t bring himself to admit that he was missing her.

One day, they finally met, At the airport, He was going away on a business trip. He saw her, She was standing there alone, with just the security door separating them.

She smiled at him gently.

Boy: How are you..?

Girl: I’m fine. How about you.., Have you found your heart’s missing part…?

Boy: No.

Girl: I’ll be flying to New York in the next flight.

Boy: I’ll be back in 2 weeks time. Give me a call when you are back, You know my number, Nothing has changed.

With a smile, she turned around and waved good-bye.

“Good-bye . . .”

Same evening he heard of a plane crash which was headed to New York. He tried to know about her and found that, She died.

Midnight… Once again, he lit his cigarette… And like before, he felt the lingering ache in his heart. He finally knew, she was that missing part that he had carelessly broken…!!!

“Sometimes, people say things out of moments of fury.

We take out our 99% frustrations at our loved ones, And even though we know that we ought to”think twice and act wisely”, we actually don’t do it. Things happen each day, many of which are beyond our control.”

Try not to hurt your loved once, because a moment of anger could be a lifetime punishment.

Tuesday, September 13, 2016

10 Times Married And Still A Virgin

A lawyer married a woman who had previously divorced ten husbands. On their wedding night, she told her new husband, “Please be gentle, I’m still a virgin.”

“What?” said the puzzled groom.

“How can that be if you’ve been married ten times?”

“Well, Husband #1 was a sales representative: he kept telling me how great it was going to be.

Husband #2 was in software services: he was never really sure how it was supposed to function, but he said he’d look into it and get back to me.

Husband #3 was from field services: he said everything checked out diagnostically but he just couldn’t get the system up.

Husband #4 was in telemarketing: even though he knew he had the order, he didn’t know when he would be able to deliver.

Husband #5 was an engineer: he understood the basic process but wanted three years to research, implement, and design a new state-of-the-art method.

Husband #6 was from finance and administration: he thought he knew how, but he wasn’t sure whether it was his job or not.

Husband #7 was in marketing: although he had a nice product, he was never sure how to position it.

Husband #8 was a psychologist: all he ever did was talk about it.

Husband #9 was a gynecologist: all he did was look at it.

Husband #10 was a stamp collector: all he ever did was… God! I miss him! But now that I’ve married you, I’m really excited!”

“Good,” said the new husband, “but, why?”

“You’re a lawyer. This time I know I’m gonna get screwed!”

Monday, September 12, 2016

Easy Beard Care Tips

Growing a beard can be an expression of freedom, but it’s also a commitment. Beards don't take care of themselves any more than your lawn or your nails. They need some upkeep.

"If you don't pay any attention to your beard, pretty soon, you're going to look like a wanderer from the Alaskan wild," says Sandy Poirier, celebrity stylist and owner of Shag, a salon in Boston.

Whether you're just past the stubble stage or trying to tame a 2-foot mass, here are some beard care tips.

Grow It Better

Fight through the itch. This is the point where the faint-hearted give up. If you stick with it, it gets better after a few weeks, Poirier says.Let it grow. Wait a few months before trying to shape a beard. That’s even if you plan to keep it short and close to the face in the long run, Poirier says. Shaping and trimming a beard too early is a common rookie mistake -- a mistake that can take weeks or months to fix. "Let it get a little wild at first," Poirier says. "Once you have about an inch or an inch and a half, then you can start shaping it."Know when to give up. It's a hard truth, but not all guys can grow a beard. It's just a matter of genetics, Poirier says. "If it's been two or three months, and it's still patchy and scraggly, it's not going to get better," Poirier says. "Let it go, shave it off, and move on."
Good Grooming

Now you've got your beard. How do you take care of it?

Shampoo. Lots of guys don't wash their beards -- or if they do, they use the bar soap they'd use on their armpits. Bad idea. You'll dry out your beard and the skin beneath. Instead, shampoo at least a few times a week, Poirier says. Use a moisturizing shampoo to prevent the hair from getting brittle Condition. Poirier recommends a thick, heavy-duty conditioner to keep your beard from getting too wiry. "Let the conditioner sit there," Poirier says. Consider the leave-in kind that you don’t have to rinse out.Use products (if you want). Whatever you rub into your beard is bound to get on your skin, too. Use products that are non comedogenic, says Seemal R. Desai, MD, a dermatologist at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center. That means they won't clog your pores.Trim it. Even if you grow your beard long, Poirier recommends a trim every two months. It's like getting rid of split ends in your hair. If you’re keeping it short, trim your beard every few weeks or so.Have the right tools. Poirier says an electric trimmer is fine for the edge of your beard on your face. But for shaping the bulk, he recommends scissors and a comb. "If you're using scissors, you're not as likely to cut off too much by accident," Poirier says.

Keep It Healthy

What else can help your beard look and feel good?

Eat a healthy diet. There are no special foods that will improve beard growth, Desai says. But he says a balanced, healthy diet is good in general for hair and skin. What about supplements? Some people say that biotin, a B complex vitamin, strengthens hair. However, there's no strong evidence showing it helps. Always check with a doctor before starting any daily supplement.Sleep . One study found that losing sleepcould slow down beard growth. So if you want a healthy, full beard, take care to get your ZZZs. Eat with care. How do you keep your lunch out of your beard? Poirier recommends taking small bites, wiping your face after each one. "Always ask for extra napkins at restaurants," he says.

Of course, some of this beard-grooming advice might seem too fussy. Maybe the very idea of beard care contradicts your manly man ideal?

Poirier, who has an impressively long beard, disagrees. "You have to take care of your beard," he says. "Beards have a strong presence. They're the first thing that any person you meet will see. Grooming is worth the effort."
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Sunday, September 11, 2016

Does Giftedness Matter?

On August 23, 2016, Farrah Alexander, a writer and mother, published an article on the Huffington Post, entitled "Maybe My Child is Gifted. Maybe Not. Maybe It Doesn't Matter" To which she concluded,

"Every child is gifted and talented. So let's stop distinguishing which children are gifted and start celebrating our children's unique gifts. How is your child gifted."


Well, naturally this stoked the ire of large segments of the gifted and talented community, who already feel as though they have to constantly justify the existence of gifted and talented  programming in school. Fair enough. If you were fighting for the unique rights of children with autism, or dyslexia, for instance, and someone wrote a piece arguing that "every child has autism", and therefore "let's stop distinguishing which children have autism and start celebrating our children's unique autism", you would probably be pretty peeved.

In her response, Heather Boorman, a writer and licensed clinical social worker who advocates for awareness and support for gifted and talented individuals, wrote that Alexander's piece doesn't make her mad, but instead makes her feel sad:

"I’m sad because the misconception of giftedness is so rampant.  I’m sad because giftedness continues to be thought of only in terms of education and intellect, when in truth, it has very little to do with education.  It has to do with living and experiencing life more intensely.  It has to do with being wired differently.  Which, trust me, has some great benefits and some great disadvantages."


This response is really interesting, and I'd like to reflect a bit on this debate. The thing is, the whole concept of giftedness was, from the very beginning of its inception, tied to educational outcomes. When Lewis Terman invented the concept*, he made giftedness synonymous with high IQ scores (on his own test, of course), and linked it to high achievement (genius).

What seems to be going on here (and I document this trend in my bookUngifted), is that a sizable proportion of the gifted and talented community-- mostly clinicians who actually work with such children on a daily basis-- fundamentally conceptualize giftedness as something very different than high achievement, and often also very different from high cognitive ability.

Now, don't get me wrong: I could get behind this newer conceptualization of giftedness. What this particular segment of the gifted and talented community seem to be describing as giftedness-- exquisite sensitivity to the environment-- certainly is a particular dimension of human variation that is important, and most certainly has substantial variation, like the rest of human personality differences.

But here's the thing: I think in order for this new conceptualization of giftedness to be tractable, it should have more clearly delineated properties, better measurement, and it should also be more clearly tied to particular educational interventions. What can you specifically do to support children who "experience the world intensely"? How do you identify that unique population in the first place, independent of IQ tests, academic achievement, and other very non-experiencing-oriented assessments? From a scientist's point of view, and even from a pragmatists point of view, I don't know what to do with this new definition of giftedness. How do you know what other people really feel, or how intensely they feel it? You know your own qualia, and that's it.

Now, we could say that all children who self-report feeling emotions extremely deeply would fall within the class of the "gifted child". Interestingly, this appears to be a dimension of personality that is orthogonal to cognitive ability. For instance, a large part of my doctoral dissertation was attempting to isolate something I referred to as "affective engagement"-- a person's subjective depth and breadth of feeling (both positive and negative). Yes, I found that this was a substantial source of variation (i.e., some people did score more highly than others on this trait). And yes, it mattered (I found it correlated with other important characteristics, such as aesthetic sensitivity, imagination and compassion). But intriguingly, affective engagement was wholly uncorrelated with IQ (the correlation was .01). Similarly, Elaine Aron tells me that her "highly sensitive person" test is uncorrelated with IQ test performance.

This contradicts a widespread belief in the gifted and talented community that the higher the IQ, the higher the morality and depth of emotions a child will experience (see here for an example of this meme). I'm not sure how this meme started, or how it could even be true from a face validity perspective. When you look at an IQ test, you see a potpourri of cognitive tests, from reading comprehension to mental rotation to holding various bits of abstract information in one's head and integrating them on the spot. Yes, these skills do a great job of predicting academic achievementBut there is not a single item on an IQ test that measures someone's capacity to "live and experience life more intensely". 

Let me be very clear. I am not criticizing the idea that the concept of giftedness should evolve beyond Terman's original conceptualization (which was indeed tied so heavily to educational outcomes). I'm not even criticizing Heather Boorman's response, or even saying I agree with Farrah Alexander's post.

In fact, I think there is a grain of truth to all of these perspectives, as well as some myopia. Boorman is right thatthere are multiple manifestations of giftedness. Intellectual giftedness is different from creative giftedness, which is different from leadership giftedness, which is different from motivational giftedness, and so on. But her argument is logically fallacious- you can't acknowledge that there does indeed exist unique ways of being gifted and then also say in the very same breath that we should stop differentiating giftedness. Either you differentiate on a dimension or you don't. You can't have it both ways.

Likewise, Boorman is right: some people do seem to be more sensitive than others to their environment, and tend to feel things more deeply. I found that is true in my doctoral dissertation. But she is misguided in saying that's allthere is to giftedness, and in so confidently stating that other conceptualizations of giftedness-- such as those that tie giftedness to educational achievement-- are theincorrect conceptualizations. Who made her (or anyone else in the gifted and talented field) the arbiter of how giftedness is defined? Of who are the truly gifted and who aren't? It rubs me the wrong way whenever someone in the field argues that others are wrong because they don't define giftedness the way they do.

Look: I don't have the answers by any stretch of the imagination. I do believe that giftedness matters. But if the field of gifted and talented education truly wishes to broaden conceptualizations of giftedness beyond academic achievement, or even cognitive ability as measured by IQ tests, it won't hold water to say things like: "the gifted child lives and experiences life more intensely". There is indeed a way of scientifically operationalizing this hazy definition, but I should hope that if we truly care about supporting exquisite sensitivity to the environment, as well as any other dimension of giftedness, we could do better to define the terms, define the measurement, and define the interventions, so that we can give help to the specific population of children who would really benefit from the support.

© 2016 Scott Barry Kaufman

Presentation Does Matter.. No Matter What The Reality Is


Women chatting in office..

Woman 1:" I had a fine evening, how was yours.. ??

Woman 2:" It was a disaster.. My husband came home, ate his dinner in 3 minutes and fell a sleep.. How was yours.. ??

Woman 1:" Oh it was amazing! My husband came home and took me out for a romantic dinner.. After dinner we walked for an hour.. When we came home he lit the candles around the house..It was like a fairy tale!

At the same time, their husbands are talking at work..

Husband 1:" How was your evening.. ??

Husband 2:" Great.. I came home, dinner was on the table, I ate and fell asleep. What about you ??

Husband 1:" It was horrible. I came home, there's no dinner, they cut the electricity because I forgot to pay the bill; so I took her out for dinner which was so expensive that i didn't had money left for a cab.

We walked home which took an hour and when we got home i remembered there was no electricity so I had to light candles all over the house!!

Moral:" Presentation does matter.. No matter what the reality is..!!"

Bring Your Hands Together And See If These 2 Lines On Your Palms Line Up. THIS Is What It Means!

Many people do believe in palm reading and pay money to a palm reader in order to find out about their love and marriage. Palm reading has long history because it has been present in ancient times. This article will help to those people who pay money and go to palm reader. Why those people?

– Because this article will show them how to read their palms by themselves. All you will have to do is to look the very first line below your fingers because that line is known as the line of marriage and it can tell a lot about your relationship status.

Look at the image and then look at your palms and see what the line of marriage says about your love life.

1. The same height – This means that you are gentle and very sensitive person with good common sense. Your spouse will be liked and accepted by your family.

2. The right hand is higher –This means that you do not care about what people will say and think about you and you will do whatever you want to do and that is why you are highly favored by older people. That means that you might be married to someone who is much older than you.

3. The left hand is higher – This means that you are person that likes challenges and that prefers passionate or fiery kind of love. That means that you are not afraid of anything and you enjoy exploring new things in life. You might be married to student or foreigne.

If A Woman Has These 10 Qualities You Should Never Let Her Go


When it comes to the one a woman loves, she will leave her comfort zone without question to make him happy, and take care of little things for him. Many women are givers, this is one way to show their love and care. If you know a woman who is ready to put effort into your happiness, don’t ever let her go, she is priceless.


A good woman may be hard to find, but they do exist. If you find a woman with the following qualities never let her go because she is the right one for you, who can change your life:

• She frequently does little things for you

It’s important for men to consistently be romantic and caring towards their women always, not just in the beginning of the relationship. You may be taken for granted for your giving behavior but the woman who values your love is the right one.

If she is willing to go the extra mile and do small things for you out of love without any expectations, it’s a great sign that she’s a keeper.

• The one who is smarter than you

A guy needs a woman who is smart enough to set things right in his disorganized life. She can make your life meaningful and help keep you from bad decisions. They are right when they say that behind every successful man there is a strong woman.

• The one who makes you want to be better

When Ms. Right walks into your life you may start paying more attention to it, you want to do better and excel in every field. Suddenly you start paying attention to your looks. She ignites the fire within you to do something big. Hold onto her and do wonders in your life.

• The one who tells you when you are wrong

Every man needs someone who will tell him, nicely, when he is wrong. There is an innate quality in many to make poor decisions. Being with a woman who keeps you on the right path and tells you when you are wrong is the best decision you can make.

• The one who is kind and nurturing

A kind woman is a good woman. Anyone who is not kind is not worth it. Being a nurturer is an excellent quality. If you want to have children, or if you already do, look for a mate who also wants children.

• The one who helps you find your happy

Being happy is important, and while happiness lies within us, there are people who make it harder to be happy around them. Happiness is something you feel, you should not have to make a huge effort to achieve it. Celebrate the little moments together, survive the bad times together, support each other, and you will feel good about being with her.

• One who is vivacious

Life can get boring at times, but if you have a partner who is vivacious, energetic, adventurous, and full of life, she can help turn dull moments into lively ones.

• One who can compromise

We are all stubborn in our own way, we want things to go our way, some of us do not easily adapt to change and get anxious trying to control outcomes. Relationships, however, require compromise. If she is ready to compromise with you then she is worth it.

• One who is strong and passionate

She may be the one for you if she is a combination of strength, passion, and femininity. A life without passion can be dull. If you believe she is passionate about you and has the strength to walk by your side then make her your life partner and never leave.

• The one who loves you

Last but not the least, the basic essential of a happy life is a loving partner. The one who will care for you and respect those who are important to you will always make you proud. If your girl is completely in love with you, good points and bad, don’t ever take her for granted. Let her know you love her too.

Whatever Is Written In Your Destiny…Will Never Change No Matter How Much You Try To…!

One day death came to a Guy and said, "Hey, today is your last day."

Guy, "But I'm not ready!"

Death said, "Well today your name is the first on my list."

Guy, "Okay then why don't you take a seat and we will drink a COFFEE before we go?"

Death, "All right."

The Guy gave Death some COFFEE with sleeping pills in it. Death finished COFFEE and fell into a deep sleep!!! The Guy took the list & removed his name from top of the list and put at the bottom of the list!!

When Death woke up he said to the Guy, "Because you have been so nice to me now I will start my job from the BOTTOM of the list.

Saturday, September 10, 2016

Life

Sometimes we struggle  through a  tasteless coffee till the last sip,  then we find  sugar lying at  the bottom ..  that's life,  sweetened but  not stirred well.

Friday, September 9, 2016

Be strong

Laugh, even when you feel too sick or too worn out or tired.
Smile, even when you're trying not to cry and the tears are blurring your vision.
Sing, even when people stare at you and tell you your voice is crappy.
Trust, even when your heart begs you not to.
Twirl, even when your mind makes no sense of what you see.
Frolick, even when you are made fun of. Sleep, even when you're afraid of what the dreams might bring.
Run, even when it feels like you can't run any more.
And, always, remember, even when the memories pinch your heart. Because the pain of all your experience is what makes you the person you are now. And without your experience---you are an empty page, a blank notebook, a missing lyric. What makes you brave is your willingness to live through your terrible life and hold your head up high the next day. So don't live life in fear. Because you are stronger now, after all the crap has happened, than you ever were back before it started.

If I die Tomorrow

If you should wake tomorrow
and find that I'm not here
remember how much I love you
and please don't shed your tears.
For my life on earth is over
My days have been fulfilled
I did what God intended
My rows have all been tilled.
Just think of me with smiles
Hold my memory in your heart
For if you don't forget me
We'll never be apart.
For all the loves I held so dear
I'll be there by your side
watching, standing over you
I'll always be your guide.
And if one day you feel a sense
a whisper in your ear
Don't be alarmed, it's only me
to let you know I'm near.
And if we never got to hug
or say the word goodbye
Please, don't have a broken heart
and sit around and cry.
Remember that I loved the Lord
and made my peace within
I prayed for his forgiveness
He washed away my sins.
So if I die tomorrow
and the sun for you won't shine
Just look up towards the heavens
I'm with the Great Divine :-(

To My Brothers..

Is it dark, where you are?
Can you count the stars where you are?
Do you feel like you are a thousand miles from home?
Are you lost, where you are?
Can you find your way when you're so far?
Do you fear, where you are?
A thousand nights alone
So here we are set into motion
We'll steal a car and crash in the river.
You and I, caught in a fading light
On the longest night..

Thursday, September 8, 2016

<b> Love Yourself

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer; no disease that enough love will not heal; no door that enough love will not open. . . . It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble; how hopeless the outlook; how muddled the tangle; how great the mistake. A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all. If only you could love enough you would be the happiest and most powerful being in the world. 

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Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Better opportunities are always waiting ahead.


A jobless man applied for the position of ‘office boy’ at a very big company.

The employer interviewed him, then a test: clean the table.

“You are hired.” – the employer said. ”Give me your email address, and I’ll send you the application to fill, as well as when you will start.”

The man replied, “I don’t have a computer, neither an email.”

“I’m sorry,” said the employer, “if you don’t have an email , you cannot have the job.”

The man left with no hope. He didn’t know what to do, with only $10 USD in his pocket.

He then decided to go to the supermarket, bought a 10 kg potatoes crate, then sold the potatos door to door. In less than two hours, he succeeded and doubled his capital. He repeated the operation 3 times and returned home with $60 USD. The man realized that he could survive by this way, and started to go everyday earlier, and returned late. Thus, his money doubled or tripled everyday. Shortly later, he bought a cart, then a truck, and then he had his own fleet of delivery vehicles.

Five years later, the man’s company was one of the biggest food retailers. He started to plan his family’s future, and decided to have a life insurance. He called an insurance broker and chose a protection plan. When the conversation was concluded, the broker asked him his email. The man replied: “I don’t have an email.”

The broker replied curiously, “You don’t have an email, and yet have succeeded to build an empire. Do you imagine what position you could have if you had an email?”

The man paused for a while, and replied: “An office boy!”

Don’t be discouraged if something is not in your favor today. Better opportunities are always waiting ahead.
Thank you

Inspired by true story...

Tuesday, September 6, 2016

Why Apologizing Can Be So Good .

It was 11:05 a.m., and my new client, Margaret, was five minutes late for her first therapy appointment. Just as I was about to call to check in with her, I could hear her footsteps coming up the stairs. Her facial expression showed disorientation. In an irritated tone, she explained that she had gone up and down the street looking in vain for my office, because there was no sign with my name on it. Apologizing is difficult for many of us, because the thought that we might have caused discomfort, or even hurt or damaged someone, can feel overwhelming. No one wants to be seen as a bad person, and we usually want to protect our image.

But feeling the pain of guilt and shame can be for the greater good.

We typically want to avoid guilt, but without it, we might make the same mistake again and miss the opportunity to come up with a resolution. Although additional ideas about potential solutions wouldn’t have benefited Margaret, I brainstormed on my own in order to prevent such incidents from happening again. One solution was to revise my website to include more explicit directions to my office. I tried to learn from the experience, and because Margaret had voiced her concern, hopefully the next new client would have an easier time finding my office.

At our next session, Margaret sat down in my office and started by saying, “I want to talk to you about last week.” I must admit that my heart rate went up a little, because I thought she might still need to work on trusting me. Those feelings would have been absolutely okay, because Margaret’s sense of trust and safety was important to having a successful therapeutic relationship. Sometimes we need to apologize more than once, and I was ready for that.

However, what she was about to tell me was not what I expected. “You know,” she expressed. “I don’t think anyone has ever apologized to me—not my friends or my parents, who abused me. I don’t think I’ve heard any politicians apologize very well, either.” She explained how healing it had felt for her to have someone take responsibility and understand how it might be to walk in her shoes. She continued to tell me that she had noticed that people generally don’t know how to apologize and that it was nice to experience a person who could. Although I initially had failed to ensure that she could find my office with ease, by apologizing I repaired and deepened our connection, creating trust and safety—and perhaps a bit of healing.

Apologies can repair connections and prevent further injury.

As a trauma therapist, I’ve seen many clients who have suffered from the effects of abuse and neglect. As I state in my upcoming book on trauma, out of hundreds of clients, I have seen only three parents apologize for the emotional and physical wounds they inflicted. I’m not sure how many politicians, leaders, or other health professionals have served as good role models for expressing appropriate apologies either. Dr. Mike Denney (2005), a former trauma surgeon, points out that in some states, the medical field has an ethical code to stay away from apologies in order to protect physicians from lawsuits. But ironically, malpractice lawsuits have gone down in states where physicians have apologized to their patients, and in these cases, patients have even “responded with forgiveness.”

Margaret was correct; there was no sign, just the house number. I usually make sure to explain to each new client how to find the entrance, because I know it’s tricky to find—but I had totally forgotten to do it this time. Now I was nervous about what impression I might have made on her, and about contributing to an awkward start to her therapy experience.

Margaret continued, “I’m never late.” Obviously, she was worried about not having made it to our appointment on time. Since an apology starts with remorse, I immediately said, “I am so sorry.” What might seem to be a small error to some people can still have an impact on someone else. It was Margaret’s first time in therapy, and my intention was to ensure that she felt heard, seen, understood, and safe.

I could have thought, Not a big deal. She’s only five minutes late, but I could tell that she was slightly upset. I believe that the following two maxims can provide valuable guidance to us when we contribute to hurt feelings or an inconvenience, even if we don’t understand necessarily why (although I did, in this case):

An apology can repair what silence can’t.

There really isn’t anything too small or too big to apologize for.
Intuitively, reflexively, and from a desire to be helpful, I said, “It must be frustrating to search up and down the street and then be late for your appointment. It can be so disorienting to be unable to find a place, can’t it?—especially when you see a therapist for the first time, and you know you’re going to feel vulnerable.” Margaret confirmed, “Yes, you’re right.”

I took responsibility by admitting that I had forgotten to give her more specific directions to my office. Without blaming her for anything, I tried to make amends by informing her that we would make up for the lost time. Without coming up with any excuses or minimizing her experience, I asked Margaret if she would need anything else from me on that issue, and she replied, “No, you got it.” Luckily, the rest of the session went well and we were able to connect.

Making a proper apology can be healing for all parties involved and might repair any relationship, professional or not, whereas the lack of an apology can arouse anger (Chapman and Thomas 2006) and might increase malpractice lawsuits in the medical field (Denney 2005). Reflecting on my previous sessions with Margaret, I learned that we need to set aside our ego and put ourselves in the shoes of the other person in order to apologize correctly. The good news is that making an apology gets easier for everyone when it is practiced more often, and anyone can learn how to make one.

<b>Resources

Chapman, Gary, and Jennifer Thomas. 2006. The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships. Chicago: Northfield Publishing.
Denney, Mike. 2005. “The Ethics of Caring.” San Francisco Medicine .

Deconstructing the Neurobiology of Resilience Neuroscience explains why some people adapt better to stress and are resilient.

Their neurobiological underpinnings of resilience are dynamic and complex. In one of the most comprehensive and thorough neuroscientific reviews of how individuals adapt to stress, researchers at King’s College London (KCL) recently compiled a meta-analysis of dozens of studies that help us better understand the neurobiology of resilience.

The September 2016 review, "Adapting to Stress: Understanding the Neurobiology of Resilience," was recently published in the journal Behavioral Medicine.  

In this review, the researchers examine the interplay between various hormones, neuropeptides, neurotransmitters, and neural circuits associated with resilience versus vulnerability to stress-related disorders. The researchers' goal was to catalog how various mechanisms in our bodies—and specifically our brains—work in concert to make someone more or less "stress-resilient" across his or her lifespan.

Because the neural mechanisms that underlie our resilience to stress are so multifaceted, the team decided to focus solely on the biological stress responses known to be linked with resilient phenotypes and how their enhanced neurobiological response to stress is processed.

While not part of this review, multiple studies have identified that factors such as social support, personality, temperament, and physical fitness play a pivotal role in levels of resilience. Although this particular review didn’t include studies concerning psychological factors, character traits, and lifestyle choices related to resilience, the authors emphasize:

“It should be noted that active coping strategies, humor, hardiness, and extraversion can promote resilience through fostering feelings of mastery, commitment, and competence as well as the ability to help others through bonding. Importantly, the propensity of resilient individuals to express positive emotions, in relation to negative events, enables them to control their anxiety and fears.”

A wide range of studies have found that positive social support and a strong face-to-face social network are key to psychological well-being. Additionally, various studies have reported that someone's level of social support can reduce and/or exacerbate the impact of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and/or major depressive disorder (MDD).

Deconstructing the Neurobiology of Resilience
In deconstructing the neurobiology of resilience, this review had three main objectives. First, the KCL researchers wanted to understand the dynamic connection between stress and resilience, as well as, what differentiates a resilient from a non-resilient individual.

Second, they wanted to identify the neurochemicals, genetic, and epigenetic mechanisms thought to be the neurobiological foundation of resilience or vulnerability to a stress-related disorder.

Third, they wanted to understand whether the ability to cope with high levels of stress is innate, inborn, inherited, and/or acquired through specific training (e.g., through a stress inoculation process) or the result of some combination of all of the above.

The extensive search for this meta-analysis was conducted by the researchers between February 2014 and June 2014. Relevant studies published in peer-reviewed journals were identified through electronic queries via PubMed, Web of Science, Embase, and PsycINFO databases.

What Makes Some People More Resilient Than Others?

The researchers hope that presenting this vast body of knowledge will lead to a more finely-tuned understanding of the neurobiological components of a “stress-resilient profile.” Individuals who are classified as stress resilient tend to exhibit an enhanced capacity for avoiding detrimental physiological and psychological consequences as a result of exposure to extraordinary levels of stress.

There is significant variation in the way individuals react and respond to various levels of stress and adversity. Whereas some individuals will develop psychiatric conditions such as PTSD or MDD after exposure to toxic levels of stress, others seem to be Teflon coated and bounce back from stressful experiences without displaying significant symptoms of psychological ill-health.

The experience of extreme or prolonged stress doesn't automatically result in mental health problems. Therefore, the million-dollar question is to find scientific evidence that explains why some individuals are able to overcome unbelievable stress and hardship, while others’ lives are completely derailed by intense levels of stress.

It's important to mention that resilience is not conceptualized by the researchers as the absence of a diagnosable psychiatric condition, but rather a constructive adaptation to adversity and traumatic experience.

The KCL researchers hope that putting together this comprehensive review will expedite the identification of underlying neurobiological components related to resilience. This could lead to improved methods and interventions to prevent and treat stress-related disorders.

The Link Between Eustress, Distress, and Resilience

Stress triggers physiological and psychological reactions in your body, brain, and mind in response to some type of “stressor.” This response is commonly known as "fight-or-flight." Generally, different types of stressors can be perceived in a positive light as being 'challenging' or 'threatening' if they are perceived in a detrimental way.

The "fight-or-flight' mechanism is part of the general adaptation syndrome defined in 1936 by Canadian biochemist Hans Selye of McGill University in Montreal. Selye published his revolutionary findings in a pithy seventy-four-line article in the journal Nature, in which he talked about eustress (good stress) and distress (bad stress) as well as the three stages of general adaptation syndrome.

Once the bugle has sounded, and the stress-response troops are mobilized in the sympathetic nervous system...there has to be some type of recalibration of your stress hormones to regain homeostasis.

Of course, we need good stress in our lives; without it, we wouldn’t have the oomph to wake up in the morning and seize the day. But all of us need to harness the bad stress in our daily lives. One of the most simple ways to do this is to engage the "tend-and-befriend" mechanisms of the parasympathetic nervous system through social connections.

When stressful challenges are perceived as exhilarating and manageable—it creates healthy eustress. For example, successfully overcoming obstacles and adversity via athletic challenges is a classically rewarding experience that leads to feelings of accomplishment.

The daily athletic process creates an upward spiral of confidence and chutzpah. Conversely, threatening life-or-death experiences outside the athletic arena—that are overwhelming and appear to impose significant danger—can result in short-term or long-term physiological and psychological damage.

Obviously, your brain is the central organ responsible for how you handle the stress response. It processes perceptual information for potential threats and initiates appropriate responses. Your brain and nervous system also regulate the physiological and/or psychological responses that end up either being adaptive or damaging.

The brain establishes a two-way communication as part of a feedback loop between itself, the immune system, and cardiovascular systems via endocrine and neural mechanisms during the stress response. By examining how humans and animals adapt to highly aversive environments (like combat), researchers have recently pinpointed specific neural, neurochemical, genetic, and epigenetic components that may characterize different levels of vulnerability, or resilience, based on how an individual responds to bad stress.

A measured physiological response to environmental stressors is an evolutionary advantage as a function of the acute stress response, more commonly known as the “fight-or-flight” mechanism. However, if your recovery from a stressful situation is not accompanied by an adequate homeostatic response, the initial response could ultimately result in harmful after effects.

Toxic Stress Levels During Childhood Undermine Long-Term Resilience

A groundswell of empirical evidence suggests that cumulative environmental stress over the life cycle often increases an individual's risk for having a stress-related psychiatric injury. However, sometimes childhood adversity creates a more stress-resilient brain.

That said, both human and animal studies suggest that experiencing severe stress in early life has a negative impact on the healthy development of someone's stress response system. Childhood trauma can cause long-lasting mental health problems into adulthood.

Prolonged activation of the stress response system during childhood is considered "toxic stress." This is caused by such things as physical/emotional abuse, chronic neglect, or constant exposure to violence. Toxic stress disrupts the normal development of the brain and related systems. This increases the risk of stress-related disorders in adulthood.

Studies that evaluated parental neglect and abusive behavior toward children during the early weeks of life found: fewer stress management skills, lower self-independence, and higher levels of anxiety and stress. Statistically, the more stressful and/or adverse experiences someone encounters in childhood, the higher his or her risk of developing cognitive, emotional, and psychiatric problems in adulthood. But again, this isn't always the case.

The latest review from King's College London points out that this was reflected in increased HPA axis and CNS activity when the same individuals were subjected to stressors in later life. Additionally, experiencing early-life toxic stress levels often led to hyper-functioning of Norepinephrine system, reduction in the hippocampal volume, and amygdala responsiveness to negative facial expressions.

Believing You Have a Degree of Control Negates the Power of a Stressor

Interestingly, the KCL review points out that research in human and animal models suggests that unexpected factors can play a pivotal role in determining whether an early childhood traumatic experience results in vulnerability to stress or resilience.

One of the factors known to play an important role in these circumstances is the degree of control that an individual has over the stressor. Another factor is the possibility of being able to change your situation. Personally, after reading this research, I realize that one reason being trapped at a stodgy boarding school during my parents' divorce was so traumatic was that I didn't have any control. I was completely powerless to change my geographic isolation or to physically escape.

The good news is that individuals can learn resilience through experience and hardship—in particular by developing qualities that facilitate appropriate coping strategies, adaptation, and recovery from stress. I figured this out in 1983 when I was 17. Coincidentally, the Walkman had just been invented, which was a godsend. I began running religiously to a mixed tape of Madonna's first album and Bruce Springsteen's Greetings from Asbury Park. This daily routine allowed me to escape psychologically and saved my life.

As a teenager, I learned through sports training how to create a place inside me that was always safe. This inner haven is surrounded by Kevlar coated one-way glass—I can see out, and I can feel all the emotions inside—but nothing can touch me or hurt me when I'm inside this asylum unless I decide to let it in. Otherwise, the stressors are deflected, and nothing can penetrate that fortress.

The latest empirical evidence corroborates this anecdotal example and shows that encountering and overcoming stress-inducing situations may have a beneficial effect on resilience throughout your lifespan. Learning to navigate adversity early on can fortify a resilient disposition, particularly over one's perception of control and sense of stress mastery.

For me, the combination of aerobic exercise, sweat, musical anthems, and finishing a challenging workout, took away my feelings of learned helplessness and made me feel like I was the ruler of my destiny. It also created a neurobiological elixir that was a prophylaxis for many types of bad stress.

Stress-Inoculation Can Immunize You From Distress

In the latest review, the researchers speak about the concept of “stress inoculation,” which happens when an individual acquires an adaptive stress response to the negative effects of stressors. Stress inoculation is a form of immunity against predictable stressors that might occur in the future. Mindfulness meditation can be used as a stress-inoculator. The term is purposely analogous to vaccine-induced immunity against a virus.

Interestingly, animal studies tend to support the stress-inoculation concept and show that early-life exposure to the right dose of stressful events may actually protect against future hypersensitivity to stress. These findings suggest that overprotecting offspring or being a helicopter parent may backfire.

One study evaluated the contribution of early stressors in the emotional stability of small rodents. The researchers randomly exposed a group of infant rats to intermittent foot shocks. This taught them how to elicit evasive movements to avoid the stressor. Another control group of infant rats were coddled and never experienced stressful foot shocks, which made them complacent.

When the two groups of young rats were put into an unfamiliar and novel stressful situation, those who had been intermittently subjected to stress displayed an enhanced coping response and a lower stress response.

There is one caveat. Because individuals have different stress thresholds, a stressor that may promote resilience in one individual could result in increased vulnerability in another individual. It's a thin line between learned helplessness and stress inoculation due to all the untold variables of individuals in their neurobiological, psychological, genetic, and epigenetic underpinnings.

In a previous Psychology Today blog post, "How Do Genes Sway the Sensitivity or Resilience of a Child," I wrote about research which found that genes and epigenetics can cause a child to be hypersensitive like an orchid, or resilient like a dandelion.

The latest meta-analysis confirms that genetic factors interact with neurobiological and epigenetic factors in ways that affect the biological characteristics and regulation of neurochemical receptors. Also, environmental factors produce epigenetic alterations within individuals, which influences resilience to stress or risk of a psychiatric condition.

Additionally, there is more and more emerging literature which suggests that a positive social support environment can moderate individual environmental and genetic vulnerabilities and increase your resilience.

Our growing understanding of resilience leads us to consider how each individual can begin to establish a resilient profile. Again, these processes are complex and require a personalized and unique approach.

For example, the neurobiological concept of resilience can't be narrowed down to a single neurochemical, hormone or peptide but rather is the result of the interaction of multiple chemical elements working in concert throughout complex networks within the human brain.

Also, the researchers warn that further complications arise in relating neurobiological processes to psychological states under the overarching concept of resilience. For example, a particular neurochemical may be found to be co-present with psychological symptoms of stress or resilience however this co-presence may not be sufficient to establish direct causation. Ultimately, more research on the neurobiology of resilience is needed.

<b>Conclusion: Nurturing the Neurobiology of a Stress-Resilient Brain for Life

In our topsy-turvy and unpredictable world, identifying effective ways to reduce stress and increase resilience has become a mandate for people from all walks of life, ages, professions, and socioeconomic backgrounds.
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Russia's Largest Portal HACKED; Nearly 100 Million Plaintext Passwords Leaked

Rambler.ru, also known as Russia's Yahoo, suffered a massive data breach in 2012 in which an unknown hacker or a group of hackers managed to steal nearly 100 Million user accounts, including their unencrypted plaintext passwords.
The copy of the hacked database obtained by the breach notification website LeakedSource contained details of 98,167,935 Rambler.ru users that were originally stolen on 17 February 2012, but went unreported.
The leaked user records in the database included usernames, email addresses, ICQ numbers (IM chat service), social account details, passwords and some internal data, the data breach indexing site said in a blog post.
The data breach was reported by the same hacker using the daykalif@xmpp.jp Jabber ID who handed LeakedSource over 43.5 Million user records from another 2012 hack suffered by the Last.fm music streaming service.
According to LeakedSource, none of the passwords were hashed, meaning the company stored its user's password in an unencrypted plain text format that could allow the company as well as hackers to see passwords easily.
This is something similar to the VK.com breach, in which 171 Million users’ accounts were taken from the Russian social networking site, where passwords were also stored in plaintext format, without any hashing or salting.
Again, as expected, the most common passwords used by Rambler.ru users, includes "asdasd," "123456," "000000," "654321," "123321," or "123123."
LeakedSource has added the data into its database; so Rambler.ru users can check if they have been compromised by searching their account at Leaked Source’s search engine.
Rambler.ru is the latest victim to join the list of "Mega-Breaches" revealed in recent months, when hundreds of Millions of online credentials from years-old data breaches on popular services, including LinkedIn, MySpace, VK.com, Tumblr, and Dropbox, were exposed online.
Rambler has yet to respond to the incident.
The Bottom Line:
Users are advised to change their passwords for Rambler.ru account as well as other online accounts immediately, especially those using the same passwords.
Moreover, I always encourage users to make use of password managers that create strong and complex passwords for different websites as well as remember them on your behalf.
I have listed some of the best password managers that could help you understand the importance of password manager as well as choose one according to your requirement.

Stay Motivated

Be A Voice Not An Eco

12 Laws of Karma


What is Karma? Karma is the Sanskrit word for action. It is equivalent to Newton’s law of ‘every action must have a reaction’. When we think, speak or act we initiate a force that will react accordingly. This returning force maybe modified, changed or suspended, but most people will not be able eradicate it. This law of cause and effect is not punishment, but is wholly for the sake of education or learning.

A person may not escape the consequences of his actions, but he will suffer only if he himself has made the conditions ripe for his suffering. Ignorance of the law is no excuse whether the laws are man-made or universal. To stop being afraid and to start being empowered in the worlds of karma and reincarnation, here is what you need to know about karmic laws.

Now that we’ve established a basic understanding of karma, let’s take a look at 12 of Karma’s laws that can change your life.

1) The Great Law: “As you sow, so shall you reap.”

The simple explanation of the Great Law is: our thought and actions have consequences – good or bad. If we desire peace, love, harmony, prosperity, etc. we must be willing to act accordingly.

This is also known as the “Law of Cause and Effect.” Also, energy (thought, action) that we put into the world has a consequence, immediate or not.

2) The Law of Creation: “What we desire comes through participation.”

The life we see around us was created by a person’s intentions. As we are one with the Universe, our intentions determine the evolution of creation. Since what we surround ourselves with becomes part of us, it’s our responsibility to ensure these surroundings are conducive to our desires.

3) The Law of Humility: “Refusal to accept what is will still be what is.”

Acceptance is a near-universal virtue in many belief systems. Simply put, we must first accept the present circumstances in order to change them.

In focusing on the negative instead of making changes to address the negative, we’re committing to a zero-sum result.

4) The Law of Growth: “Our own growth is above any circumstance.”

The only thing we have control over is ourselves. The subsequent action (or inaction) of motive will yield either positive or negative circumstances in our lives.

True change only occurs if we make the commitment to change what is in our heart.

5) The Law of Responsibility: “Our lives are of our own doing, nothing else.”

When there is turbulence in one’s own life, there is often turbulence internally. If we’re to change our life, we must change our frame of mind and surroundings.

6) The Law of Connection: “Everything in the Universe is connected, both large and small.”

Our past, present and future are all connected. As such, we must put in the work to change these connections if we desire something different.

No step – first, intermediate or last – is more important in the accomplishment of a task. All are required.

7) The Law of Focus: “One cannot direct attention beyond a single task.”

Relating to our spiritual growth, we cannot have negative thoughts or actions and expect to grow spiritually. We must direct full attention to achieve any desired task.

8) The Law of Hospitality and Giving: “Demonstrating our selflessness shows true intentions.”

Put simply: what we claim to believe must manifest into our actions. Selflessness is a virtue only if we’re accommodating something other than ourselves.

Without a selfless nature, true spiritual growth is nearly impossible.

9) The Law of Change: “History repeats itself unless changed.”

Conscious commitment to change is the only method of influencing the past. History will continue along an unconstructive path until positive energies direct it elsewhere.

10) The Law of Here and Now: “The Present is all we have.”

Looking back regretfully and forward pointlessly robs oneself of a present opportunity. Old thoughts and patterns of behavior negate the present chance to advance ourselves.

11) The Law of Patience and Reward: “Nothing of value is created without a patient mindset.”

Toiling away cannot be circumvented through wishful thinking. Our rewards are claimed only through patience and persistence, nothing else.

Rewards are not the end-result. True, lasting joy comes from the knowledge of doing what’s necessary in the rightful anticipation of a reward that is well-earned.

12) The Law of Significance and Inspiration: “The best reward is one that contributes to the Whole.”

The end result is of little value if it leaves little or nothing behind. Energy and intentions are vital components that determine the significance of an end-result. Ideally, love and passion embody the motives of one that resolves to leave a lasting impression on the Whole.

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Married or Non you should Read

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
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If You Put A Cotton Ball With VapoRub In Your Ear All Night, Here’s The Surprising Effect


Vicks VapoRub is a bit of an institution as far as over-the-counter medicine is considered, perhaps because it functions so differently from other types of nonprescription treatments. Whereas medicine these days is usually contained in pills or effervescent tablets, Vicks treats your ailments with vapors. Bridie Cavanaugh at eHow says camphor, eucalyptus oil and menthol, the three most important ingredients in Vicks, relieve congestion and coughing when breathed in. The product also works as a good topical analgesic for other issues.



All of this is fairly common knowledge, but did you know about Vicks’ other useful properties? There are plenty of home remedies out there for different kinds of issues that involve the fresh, strong-smelling ointment. Here are a few of them:

1. Headaches
For standard headaches, AnswersVideo (in the video below) suggests applying some Vicks to your temples for quick pain relief. If you’re suffering from a sinus headache instead, Livestrong recommends putting ointment under your nose and breathing in slowly and deeply.

2. Muscle aches
Massage Vicks over the muscles that are causing pain, then wrap them in a dry, warm towel for a while, according to LiveStrong.

3. Soothe earaches

An earache can be a symptom of an ear infection, but it can also be an effect of a common cold, states WebMD. Even while following doctor-recommended care to fight the cause, the pain can make daily activities difficult, particularly going to sleep. Home Remedies for Life lists a cotton ball with Vicks VapoRub as a simple home remedy to ease the pain. Simply rub a little on a cotton ball and place it in the ear all night or until the pain has subsided. 

4. Toenail fungus

Infected toenails should be rubbed with VapoRub two to three times a day for as long as is needed, eHow reports. The process may take several weeks to months.

5. Cracked heels

Apply Vicks to the heels and balls of your feet, then massage it into the damaged areas. Do this in the evening, then sleep with socks on. The next morning, rinse the product off with warm water and exfoliate with a pumice stone, Livestrong suggests.

6. Repel bugs

AnswersVideo suggests applying light amounts of Vicks to clothing and skin to scare bugs away. If you get bitten anyway, try rubbing some ointment on that spot for itch relief.

7. Keep animals at bay

Cats will stay away from furniture dabbed with Vicks, helping you keep your couch, doors and curtains scratch-free.

8. Heal bruises and minor cuts

Apply a thin layer of Vicks and salt to bruises. The combination will help your blood circulate faster and dissolve the bruise mark in shorter amounts of time, according to Livestrong. AnswersVideo also suggests rubbing the ointment around small cuts to improve healing. However, eHow warns against applying the product to open wounds and damaged skin, so be careful with this one.

9. Reduce acne.
Apply Vicks VapoRub to the spots at night and wash it off in the morning. The camphor and eucalyptus oil will help to clear up breakouts.

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